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Sunday, June 1, 2014
Why do people not help a stranger in need? Walk down the streets and someone falls or drops something. Does anyone help? Sometimes we watch videos of these situations and can't help but wonder why is it that no one helps? Im a strong believer of pay it forward but I must admit that sometimes it's hard to react quickly to help someone. Once my friend and I were in a mall and she saw one lady lying on the ground and she immediately ran towards her with a bottle of ointment in her hand to offer her. I was surprised, how on earth does one react so damn quickly! People around were just walking by.. Like there's nothing Bless her I do try my best to help people around as I knew that if I were them, I would love to have someone help me too. Mostly I just assist elderly in crossing roads. I've spoken to many regarding this issue before and frankly I think society has made people belonging to it selfish and self centered. I don't blame people who choose not to offer a hand to others in need Why do people stop helping one another? You don't know them One night I was going home, it was late at night and saw a china couple nearby, the girl was drunk, puking all over herself (and the guy) and she was just lying there. I went to ask the guy if everything was alright and went home to get a bottle of hot water and a box of tissues for them. My older brother and father asked me why I did that. 'You don't know them, it's dangerous' Yeah, maybe the guy made the girl this way intentionally? I wouldn't know. Fear of rejection Honestly it's pretty embarrassing sometimes when you offer to help and get rejected. Especially in a crowded area. My friend ran over to the lady and offer her ointment. Everyone was looking at her and the guy beside the lady just politely rejected her saying something like she's okay. Doesn't look very good right? Assholes taking advantage of kindness of others. When I was in secondary school, my friend and I were around bugis area and an old man came over and started speaking to us. I couldn't make out what language it was (too many dialects in Singapore) so I tried my best to help him. My friend was pulling me away but I didn't understand why I shouldn't help him (she's from china, I'll explain why many Chinese people are more adverse to helping others). I was trying my best and as he was a lot shorter than I am, i would bend down to talk to him and stand back up straight and ask my friend if I needed to ask her smth. I stood up straight and suddenly the old man grabbed my chest and walked away. Yes. I just got molested while helping an old man. WHAT COULD I DO? Nothing. He was so old, he has a bad case of hunched back and was limping. I can't possible slap him right? And it didn't feel right to report him as well. Also, I'm pretty sure we all haven't forgotten about the wang yue incident. 'A van hit a 2-year-old little girl and then fled. No passersby reached out to help and then another car ran over her. Over the span of 7 minutes, a total of 17 people passing by failed to extend a hand or call the police, up until the 19th person, a garbage scavenger [older woman], who lifted her up after discovering her but the little girl in her arms was like a noodle, immediately collapsing back onto the ground. The trash scavenger called for help, and the little girl’s mother, who was in the vicinity, immediately rushed over and rushed her to the hospital.' It shocked the world and many people started criticizing the Chinese. But I don't blame them. At all. There are many cases in china in which someone being friendly to a stranger ends up being a victim. Stolen items, robbed, accused and even stealing of a baby and kidnapping. Article of wangyue can be read here http://www.chinasmack.com/2011/videos/2-year-old-chinese-girl-ran-over-by-van-ignored-by-18-bystanders.html Under the comments you can see people criticizing and also people who say they understood. One comment stood out and fully explains why people in china would not help someone in need '"nanjing judge" refers to the infamous 2006 case of a man named Peng Yu who helped a woman to the hospital after she had fallen only to have the old woman accuse him of knocking her down. The Nanjing judge in that case ultimately ruled that common sense dictated that only the person who hit her would take her to the hospital, setting a precedent that continues only further discourages and reinforces many Chinese people's wariness to help others in similar situations.' It's not a one-time case of something like that. Can you imagine if you were to help someone In an accident and in turn get used, having to pay for her medical fees and maybe allowance for her entire life . I wouldn't help too. Chinapore With that, maybe that's why people just stop helping each other anymore is exactly because of this. It's no secret that there are LOTS of people from china in Singapore. (Hence, chinapore) very sad that we have lost our own culture. Nevertheless i still do believe in paying it forward and one day, you may receive help when you need it. It would make a world a much much happier place. |
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